Bella loses her family: The downside of our shelter Christmas
By Dr. Marty BeckerWednesday, Dec 21st, 2011
The second annual “Christmas Pawty” at three Northern Idaho shelters was a day of incredible ups, not the least for the company I had with my wife (Teresa), daughter (Mikkel), granddaughter (Reagan) and dozens of other dedicated, sincere, warm, energetic, loyal and most of all loving women (listed first because they dominated the ranks), men and children who love pets like family showing up to participate. Every one of the approximately 280 dogs and 200 cats at the shelters received a toy, a treat, some love, spoken words and silent prayers telling them we were going to redouble our efforts to move them from the cage at the shelter to the couch at somebody’s home.
It was seven straight hours of being mostly on my knees in front of and inside of cages squirting Kong peanut butter right into dogs’ mouths (it was like they were nursing on a baby bottle), giving the dogs poker chip slices of Natural Balance lamb rolls and cats Halo freeze dried chicken (both are like crack), playing tug of war with some retrievers and Cirque du Soleil aerials with kittens by dangling catnip toys from the sides and ceilings of the cages. I finally took a break to eat, and while sitting alone in a restaurant by the Kootenai River in my hometown of Bonners Ferry, Idaho, I should have been buoyed up by all the “ups” I’d been part of, but I was troubled by thoughts of beautiful dog I’d seen that day,
A little after noon, I was inside the lobby of the Kootenai Human Society in Coeur d’ Alene. The organized, energetic, dedicated, loving shelter manager, Rondi Renaldo, was running around as if her hair was on fire. The crew from the local ABC affiliate was there to report on the event, as were a reporter and photographer from the Coeur d’ Alene Press. Perhaps a dozen volunteers already had on lighted Santa hats and flashing reindeer antlers and were busy organizing the toys and treats in the big boxes in the lobby for our loving assault to bring cheer to those precious pets in the cages.
The day-to-day business of the shelter was going on as well.
A well-dressed young man came in in with a beautiful black Pug in his arms. Because our daughter, Mikkel, has two Pugs, Willy and Bruce, we babysit frequently. And because we’ve never met a Pug we haven’t thought was beautiful and precious, we went up to introduce ourselves and get and give some “Pug love.”
“Are you here to volunteer for the Christmas Pawty?” I asked, to which he replied curtly, “No.” Then Teresa said, “Ah, your Pug is beautiful!” and stroked her head (because of the way he was holding the dog we could see the gender). He never responded to Teresa but just turned away.
After visiting dogs throughout the facility we came to the last ward. In the second run on the right, sitting beside her nice bed, was the little black Pug we’d seen in the lobby. Her head was down and she was shivering with fright.
Shocked, I asked Rondi what had happened, and she said the man had surrendered the dog. saying it was just too hard to take care of the pet now that they had a baby. At about four-years of age, this dog had been subjected to a reverse migration of what we were attempting to get for others that day: The Pug went from the “couch at a home to a cage at the shelter.”
Mikkel took the dog out of the cage, embraced and kissed her, and we asked her name. It was Bella. She was so scared that she wouldn’t even take a single bite of lamb roll or lick of peanut butter. She just wanted her family to come back and get her and take her home, but that wasn’t going to happen.
I do understand how in some circumstances families simply can’t keep a pet (have lost their home, or their job, or both), but I just had a feeling – we veterinarians see a lot, after all – that Bella was dropped off not because her owners couldn’t care for her, but because they didn’t want to, anymore.
That’s why I was so sad. Several pets were adopted that day, including the Langley the Labrador who’d been at the Kootenai Humane Society for almost a year. But I couldn’t Bella get out of my mind. Soon Teresa joined me at the restaurant, and the first thing she mentioned was Bella. Mikkel texted us about Bella. She had hit our hearts full on.
Last night I had trouble sleeping because of thinking about Bella in the cage. Without a family who loved her. But I got up this morning full of hope, because I know there’s a lucky family with hearts and home for a precious black Pug.
Is your family that family? Let’s start with her, then move onto finding homes for the other pets who need much more than one extra special day per year, not just in my local shelters but in yours, too. We can get it done!
Update: From our friends at the Kootenai Humane Society: “Bella is already on her way to her new home where she will have another pug as company. She is a very sweet dog and is going to a good home.” Best news ever!
Photo: Mikkel with Bella.
Looking back, looking forward and celebrating “The Bond”
By Dr. Marty BeckerSaturday, Dec 10th, 2011
Last October marked my 15th year on “Good Morning America.” I can’t believe so much time has passed so quickly, how much has changed and how much hasn’t.
Teresa and I have been married more than three decades, and together we have raised two children of whom we could not be more proud. Last night our eldest, Mikkel, turned 26. She’s a hard-working business woman and a loving mother to our only grandchild, 2-year-old Reagan. We celebrated together with a birthday dinner at Ugly Fish in her hometown of Coeur D’Alene, missing our son, Lex, who is spending a year studying at a college in Japan.
At our Almost Heaven ranch 100 miles north, the beauty of the seasons never seems to change, from winter to spring to summer to fall and around again, the seasons changing but time not seeming to move forward year by year. But it does, and Teresa and I well know it as we’ve watched generations of animals — our dogs, horses and cats — grow up, grow old and die, their memories marked forever by the scars on our hearts when they pass and by the stones that mark their final resting spots on the ranch.
Animals have always been part of my life, as you’d no doubt expect from someone who grew up on a working family farm. All our animals had jobs, and we kids did, too, but even then I recognized something more, a special influence animals have on us (and vice versa) that years later I would start calling “The Bond.”
Of all the things now so different since my first day on the set of “Good Morning America,” nothing has changed so much as the ways we use technology to connect with one another. Smartphones, texting, e-mail, Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, YouTube — I could never have imagined such things 15 years ago and now it’s sometimes hard to imagine life without them.
I’ve never shied from change. That’s why I’ve once again had this website redesigned to complement not only all the social media I now use but also my role as the spokesman for Vetstreet. Where once my friend John Lofflin worked with me to develop a DrMartyBecker.com designed to stand alone, I now have a site designed to fit like another piece in the puzzle that when looked at whole provides the picture of who we are whether online or “IRL” — in real life, and honestly, it gets harder all the time to see the difference.
This blog, though, is because there are still some places where things just don’t fit, and they are often things I simply do not what to ignore. How many such things there are an how often I do not yet know, but I hope you’ll stick around with me to find out.